Confidence

How it feels to be ‘networked’ by an amateur

Norman Cameron 1905-1953, Poet

‘The compassionate Fool’  by Norman Cameron , is one of my favourite poems. It’s beautifully written.  When I first got to know the piece I thought that it was about me, as teenagers tend to.  About how difficult I found it to get out of relationships in case I hurt the other person’s feelings. Then I passed through those difficult pubescent angsts. Now I read it differently.

The Compassionate Fool

My enemy had bidden me as guest.

His table all set out with wine and cake,

His ordered chairs, he to beguile me dressed

So neatly, moved my pity for his sake.

 

I knew it was an ambush, but could not

Leave him to eat his cake up by himself

And put his unused glasses on the shelf.

I made pretence of falling in his plot,

 

And trembled when in his anxiety

He bared it too absurdly to my view.

And even as he stabbed me through and through

I pitied him for his small strategy.

 

Today it makes me think of the people that we meet when we’re networking,  I see them as the ‘compassionate one’,  even more so if  the networker is ‘pushy’. We’ve all met the type. Thick skinned and persistent, the kind of networker who has learned a few ‘tricks’ to get people talking, and uses them clumsily, bringing his  ‘small strategy too absurdly into view’.  Poor networkers tend to be, like the villain in the piece, obvious, pitiable and in too much of a hurry to stick the knife in to dinner.

Successful networkers take their time, help their friends and look for opportunities to do that, before asking for anything, and it may take years.

Jim Harvey

Jim Harvey

Managing Director at The Message Business
Jim is the MD of The Message Business, a company which helps FTSE 100 companies to sell themselves, and their products better. Speech writer, Prezi trainer and designer, coach and consultant, Jim also finds time to be a proud father and husband.
Jim Harvey
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